One thing we all have in common is loving someone. I feel like many celebrity couples are quick to get a divorce or breakup with one another, because they get bored with one another or they do not know how to fix the issues in their relationship or marriage.
Which is very similar to us regular folks. We all start off flirting, dating, and if the connection is right we'll soon take things to new levels. However, just like regular folks when situations get tough in celebrities lives they might avoid issues or stop talking to their spouse. And in some cases breakup and move to what they think is the next great thing.
I feel like it's easier for a celebrity to bounce back after a breakup, because they have power. They have power to buy love, to shower someone with gifts, to take romantic trips, and to sweep someone off their feet.
But if you look beyond all that power they have, you will see they are just like us.
Let's take Kim Kardashian West and her beau Kanye West as an example to give us an insight of why we are similar in many ways...
One thing I like that Kanye West did, was write a song for Kim Kardashian. He expressed his love and talked about what makes Kim so attractive. They both also stated that they attend the movies together and have lunch dates. Which sounds pretty regular to me.
- Kanye West is so in love with Kim Kardashian that he came close to jumping up and down and confessing his undying adoration for her on Ellen DeGeneres' Show. <<Huffington Post
I think for any married couple they find it a challenge to date their spouse. You know in the beginning most people who are starting out dating live separate lives. They have to make time to grow a new relationship, which may start over dinner, a movie, a game of bowling, spending time together on the weekend, going out dancing, celebrating the holidays together, etc.
So, what makes dating so hard now that you are married. Well, there are a lot of things. Work and kids I'm sure is at the top of that list. Then there's just an overwhelming feeling of being tired all the time. These are just a few factors, but I'm sure you could continue to add to the list.
But today I want to tell you that dating your spouse does not have to be hard. What you think is whack, simple minded, or maybe your're buying big expensive gifts to keep him or her happy is actually opposite of what you have to do.
As I mention earlier Kanye and Kim did some pretty simple things to embrace the romance in their relationship at the beginning, and I want us to dig a little deeper to see how we can do the same...
Writing your song
During the first year of dating my husband, I would give him a card every month. I loved the Hallmark cards that were called between you and me. These cards went into great details about where my feelings were for him every month. In addition to the card I would write him something nice in it.
I am not the writing a song type of girl and neither is my husband. However looking back almost 14 years ago, I can tell you that he still has them in an old shoe box, where he can pull out anytime. I was even into drawing during that time and I drew our picture.
A Movie and A Dinner
My husband and I were very young when we met. We weren't actually legal to go to a club or drink alcohol. So, going to the movies and having dinner on the weekends was our thing before we had children. It's still pretty cool to do those things now. One reason is, this gives us a chance to laugh, catch up, joke around, and laugh until we are in tears sometimes, and then it's time to go home and lay it down. We are older now, so going out for a couple of hours and having a good time is all we need. For some couples, it maybe different. But you should always try to make the most of your dates.
Going to a movie these days is actually kind of tough for us. The reason is we tend to fall asleep. So, usually dinner and a game of bowling is better for us.
I love going to the movies and having dinner with other couples too. Most of the couples we hang out with are on the path to being married, so they are very easy to relate to. We know a few couples that are married like ourselves and going out with them is just as much fun as me and my husband having dinner alone.
I love gifts. My husband knows I am a purse and shoe fanatic. I have recently got into jewelry and makeup, but purses and shoes are my top gifts. I also love roses. My husband knows all these things, but most of the time I just want him and his time. No gift could ever buy my affection, love, or how I care for him in the most honest way.
I think we forget sometimes, that just quality time with our spouse is all what we need to fix any issues that may be lingering around. Marriage is hard. It's tough sometimes, to live with another person, it's tough to not be selfish in a relationship with another person, and it's tough to not hold grudges, but this is when you make a decision in your marriage to fix these issues and do it quickly.
Gifts are good, but I love the gifts that keeps on giving. For me that's his love, his passion, seeing him grow as a man, a dad, and my husband.
Dating your spouse is not hard. You make it hard when you keep delaying the necessary time to spend with him or her. As you can see celebrities go through the same dating process and you can also see that love can not be bought. It takes the both of you...not just one person.
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