Happy Marriage Quotes: Great Marriages Are Contagious If you want a great marriage surround yourself with couples who have one.

Great Marriages Are Contagious

If you want a great marriage surround yourself with couples who have one.

Did you know good friends are hard to find?  When you get married it seems even harder.

I love having the ideal of having a conversation with someone I can relate to about marriage.

Warning
Single friends don't understand unless they have been married.  My sister can't even relate and I've known her my whole life.  Being that she has never been married, I would not expect for her to.

So how do you find a great marriage that's contagious...Well let's put it like this...the life you live outwardly for everyone to see will attract those type of people.

So, if you're the type that brags about your husband...you'll attract a Susan who adores her husband.

If you're the type that bashes your husband, because you don't like how he treats you...you'll attract a person who may want to talk to you, but be prepared for a lot of negativity.

If you're the type of person that keeps it real by saying you love your husband, but it hasn't always been peaches and cream then you'll probably end up attracting some wisdom.

What are you attracting?  Do you have a contagious marriage?

I've been asked on Facebook where do you find people who has a Happy Marriage that is contagious.  I've also been told that people are the worse part to involve in marriage.

If this was 5 years ago, I would have agreed with you a 100%.  Here's what changed...

My husband and I met a couple in 2009 at church.  There was nothing unusually about them.  There was not a special light beaming around them.  And as a matter of fact they looked just like us.  They had children, they attended church regularly together, and they were very nice people.  The only thing we didn't have, that they had was a marriage.  No, my husband and I was not married at the time when we met them.  Actually, we had one son and another one on the way.

We got introduced to this couple, because my husband mother's (at the that time I was just the girlfriend) was the pastor of this church.  She used this couple in her ministry, because they had a desire to one day be ministers.  One day, my mother in law decided she wanted to take a leap of faith and start a church outside of the Methodist church we were all involved in.  By doing this, my mother in law needed some great warriors to stand behind her to help her with this new journey.  Of course, my husband would be involved, because this was his mother, but this couple also decided to follow my mother in law, because they loved her so much.  But not only that, they said we were all Divinely Connected.

Well, as the building of this ministry was being created, my husband and I, along with this couple begin to hang out and spend more time together.  The wife never tried to force God on me, but I did share with her a lot of hurtful things my husband and I had been through.  In return she talked with me, ministered to me, prayed with me and for me, gave warm hugs, offered real world advice, and she shared with me about things in her past too.  It was just a joyous feeling to be able to have someone to talk to and not be judge.

And of course the husband would talk to my husband.  I'm not sure what their conversations entail, but I could tell that they were creating a bond and things in our relationship were beginning to change.

Fast forward to present....
We still know this couple.
We still all attend church together.
My husband and I got married in 2012.
The couple was apart of our ceremony.
We call them brother and sister.

Words of Wisdom:
I agree with you!  Happy Marriages are hard to find.  The best example I had when I was growing up was my aunt and uncle, but after turning 18 I found out it wasn't so great.

To have a happy marriage it starts with you.  I always say on this blog, the choice you make in your life start with you.  Getting that change in my relationship with my husband was a desire of my heart.  It was something I had been praying for.  It was something I was seeking.  A lot of the time I was looking for this change in the wrong way.  I'm sure you can relate to that.  Sometimes, we think if we do or say certain things, that will cause the other person to change, but it actually doesn't.

I also did other things to create a happy marriage, which was reading Joyce Meyer books ( I adore her so much and I call her a missing angel from Heaven), I also started connecting with other married couples in our new ministry (I never knew other people went through some of the same petty issues that my and husband and I use to argue about), and most importantly I made up in my heart and mind that I refuse to continue to live my life in an unhealthy way.

What I recommend for you to do is really ask yourself what your desire is for your marriage.  Yes, there are people out there that will talk bad behind your back and they will spread the troubles and worries that you are having in your marriage.  So, instead, spread things like this,

Yes, marriage is not easy, but at least my husband is loving.
Yes marriage is hard, I cry sometimes, because of the tough things we go through, but I am so happy I have someone to go through them with.
Yes, marriage is work, but at least my husband comes home to me every night.  He has never cheated.

Remember what I said,
If you're the type that brags about your husband...you'll attract a Susan who adores her husband.

If you're the type that bashes your husband, because you don't like how he treats you...you'll attract a person who may want to talk to you, but be prepared for a lot of negativity.

If you're the type of person that keeps it real by saying you love your husband, but it hasn't always been peaches and cream then you'll probably end up attracting some wisdom.

Again, I ask...What are you attracting to have a happy marriage?


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