Know that marriage is a journey. In your journey you and spouse are going to encounter so much together as you share life everyday. You will also learn many things about your yourself too.
Things like patience, your tolerance level for different things, and so much more.
You must be dedicated to your journey with your spouse, even when you have ups and downs. Just like parenting isn't easy or sticking to your diet isn't easy, marriage is not going to be easy.
From my own personal experience in my own marriage, I have learned everything is a process. I must learn how to think intentional and be dedicated to this process. For example, if I want to have a date night with my husband I have to first ask him. I can't assume he knows what I want.
Secondly, I have to want to have a great time on date night. I can't involve our conversations about bills, kids, or family drama. I must be intentional ( be on purpose) about what comes out of my mouth. This is our time to love and enjoy one another. And no matter what obstacles try to stop date night (ex: babysitter not showing up, someone needing help with a flat) you must be dedicated to not let anything get in the way.
Another example, is when you argue in your marriage. Learn to be intentionally with your words by using the right words to help solve the issue. If there is no solution to the problem or you can't come up with one, than tell your feelings that this is not the end of the world and you are still dedicated to working things out with your spouse.
Perseverance is hard. It's especially hard when the other person doesn't try as hard as you do in your marriage to make it right. I find myself a lot of the times taking the high road, when there 's an argument brewing between my husband and I.
I take the high road by not arguing, not being petty, not nagging, and not being difficult. Usually, for me when there's an argument brewing between my husband and I, it's me who has the issue, not him. But when I go to talk to him about it sometimes, he does not respond like I want him to. This makes me so upset and it hurts my feelings. So many times I have went in on him, because I am hurt or angry and he did not respond like I wanted him to. And I always say if the shoe was on the opposite foot, I feel I would have had his back.
Reflecting back on my past I can say I felt that way 90% of the time when we argued. In those types of situations I did learn a few thing.
First, I learned the issue is not really as big as I'm making it to be.
Secondly, I have learned either I'm going to vent or either I'm going to look for my husband to be a problem solver about the issue. Then I must accept the response my husband gives me.
With that being said, here is another solution about growing old with your husband by living an amazing life and that is you have to be dedicated.