How do you grow when you are around your spouse 24/7

You can ask this question in a couple of different ways:
  • How can I be my own person when I am around my spouse 24/7
  • How can I not lose myself when I am around my spouse 24/7

Don't get me wrong I love my husband.  He is definitely the man for me, but I think he would agree with me, when I say I don't want to be around him 24/7.

I love our time apart and I love our time together.

However, there are times when we are around one another for days at a time and I really enjoy our time together, because it seems so precious.  We both work a lot and so anytime we can spend with one another, we try to make the best of it.

I don't have any friends that work with their spouse 24/7.  Those who do work with their spouse, work together on the weekends.

With all of that being said, I will say it's hard to tell your spouse you are changing as an individual.  When you're married and you tell your spouse that, a lot of the times he will not admit that he sees a change, unless the change is so drastic, that he can't help but notice.  For example, something like changing your hair color from black to pink will for sure get his attention.  And I'm sorry ladies, but weight loss is not one of those things men will notice right away.  Hopefully, he will notice the hard work you are putting in, but men don't tend to notice things like that right away.

I see changes in my husband all the time and I tell my husband I see the change in him, because I want him to know that I am paying attention to him daily.  I want him to know that I notice and appreciate all that he is doing.

If I change the time when I cook dinner, my husband will notice and make a point to say something, but when it comes to him noticing changes in my attitude, my moods, or my habits, I believe those are a lot harder for him to notice.  Especially, if I am not persistent.  Which bring me to answering your question and the point of all I am saying. 

Persistent is the key to growing
Your husband does not stunt your growth, only you do.  Some people feel, they aren't growing, because they assume the other person doesn't see it.  If you feel and see the growth within yourself, then it should not matter if your spouse sees it.

I believing growing in a relationship is making sure you are taking care of business at home and outside of home.  When your spouse brags about you to his family and friends that means he sees the growth.  He may not let you know, but seeing him brag to his family and friends should be a good confirmation of the growth he sees within you.  But you can't be trying to make changes within yourself for him, you have to do it for yourself.

My 4am Story
I try to get up every morning at 4am.  Most days I do and yes even on the weekends.  But I don't do this for my husband.  I get up to wash clothes, clean the kitchen, cook, work on Everyday Husband Quotes, and mediate.  I love this time for myself.  My husband nags me about getting up out of the bed so early, because he feels like I am leaving him alone, but that is far from the truth.  Yes, I could do all of these things after work or late in the evening, but my energy level is different then.  After, working hard all day at work, in the evening time all I want to do is a little light cleaning, bathe, eat, and go to bed.

So, I get up around this time, because I feel like my energy is the best that early in the morning.  I do all those things like cleaning and cooking for my family, but it's really for me.  I know if I don't clean and cook, than it won't get done at all or if it is done, it won't be up to my standards.  So, as you can see I do those things for myself, not for my husband or kids.

By the way, I don't get any recognition from my husband.  I don't get a thank you or anything, but once again it doesn't bother me if I don't, because I know I am doing these things to make my life easier.  And as I am getting up at 4am in the morning it's helping me to grow.  I am more centered, level headed, at peace, happy, and I feel like I got something accomplished for my family for the day.  Now, I would hate for something to happen to me like getting sick for a couple of days or so, because that means my husband would have to pick up the slack of what I am doing.  But hopefully, it doesn't take something like that for him to appreciate what I do in the morning.  And to be honest with you, I am okay if I don't get any recognition or a simple thank you.

In conclusion
I will admit that it is possible for you to grow with your spouse, even though you two are around one another 24/7, but you have to be persistent, have patience, and let time pass by before your spouse will recognize growth within you.

You can grow being around your spouse 24/7, but you have to be willing to notice your own growth, before you spouse notices it.  Therefore, it won't make you upset or make you feel some type of way if your spouse never sees the change.

But if you are growing and you are persistent, I promise you your spouse will notice, because the change will be so great in you, that your spouse can't help, but notice.

People grow and change everyday.  It's a part of life.  But not everyone sees your growth and change.  Sometimes, it's even made out to be a negative thing.

But remember what I said, if you are trying to be a better you for you, than what your spouse or anyone else thinks won't matter.

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